Have you ever found yourself worrying about something even though you know there's nothing you can do about it right now?
By Anastasia M. · Updated
Maybe you're waiting for someone to reply, worrying about your future, or replaying a conversation in your head, wondering if you said the wrong thing. You try to distract yourself, but somehow, your mind keeps going back to it. You think about what could happen, what you should have done differently, or what you wish you could change.
I think we've all been there. Sometimes, we hold on so tightly because we care about how things turn out. We want answers, reassurance, and a little certainty that everything will be okay. And when we don't have those things, it's hard to relax. But here's something worth remembering: you can care about something without having to control every part of it.
1. Recognize What Is and Isn't in Your Control
When something is bothering you, ask yourself two questions:
What can I actually do about this? What am I trying to control that isn't up to me?
For example, if you're worried about a job interview, you can prepare your answers, research the company, and show up on time. But you can't control whether the interviewer chooses you.
If you're having problems with someone, you can communicate honestly and apologize if you've done something wrong. But you can't control how the other person responds.
2. Give Your Mind a Break From Trying to Figure Everything Out
Sometimes, we keep thinking about a problem because we believe that if we think about it long enough, we'll eventually find an answer. You might replay an awkward conversation, wonder what someone really meant, or imagine every possible outcome of a decision.
But thinking about something repeatedly doesn't always help you solve it. Sometimes, it just makes you more anxious. When you notice yourself going in circles, pause and ask: Is there anything useful I can do about this right now? If there is, take one small step. If there isn't, try bringing your attention back to what you're doing today.
You don't have to figure out your entire future tonight. And you don't need an explanation for every situation before you can move forward.
3. Remember That You Can Trust God Without Knowing What Happens Next
One of the hardest parts of letting go is not knowing how things will turn out. We want to believe everything will work out the way we hope, but we can't always be sure of that. This is where trusting God can be difficult, but also meaningful.
Proverbs 3:5–6 says to trust in the Lord with all your heart and not lean entirely on your own understanding.
This doesn't mean you should stop making decisions or leave everything to chance. You can still plan, work toward your goals, and make wise choices. It means recognizing that your understanding has limits, and you don't have to carry the responsibility of controlling every outcome.
When you're worried about something you cannot change, try praying honestly about it. Tell God what you're afraid of, what you hope will happen, and what you're struggling to accept.
4. Try Not to Worry About Tomorrow Before It Gets Here
Have you ever spent so much time worrying about something that hadn't happened yet, only for things to turn out completely differently from what you expected? It's easy to get caught up in that cycle. You start thinking about one possibility, then another, until you've mentally lived through a dozen different situations that may never happen. Planning ahead is helpful. But constantly worrying about the future can make it difficult to enjoy what's happening in your life right now.
Jesus addresses this in Matthew 6:34, reminding us not to worry about tomorrow because each day has enough trouble of its own.
When you catch yourself worrying about what might happen, bring your attention back to today. What needs your attention right now? Is there something you can do today? Can the rest wait until you have more information? You don't need to solve tomorrow's problems before tomorrow arrives.
5. Make Space for God Instead of Feeding Your Worry
When you're stressed, it's tempting to look for constant distractions. You might scroll through social media, watch videos, or keep checking your phone just to get your mind off things. There's nothing wrong with taking a break. But if you keep reaching for your phone every time an uncomfortable thought comes up, you may never give yourself the chance to process it.
Try creating a small pause when you feel overwhelmed. Put your phone aside for a few minutes. Read a Bible verse, pray, or sit quietly and let yourself acknowledge what's bothering you. If your phone is one of the things that keeps pulling your attention away, Bible Lock can help. It lets you place Bible verses on your lock screen and block distracting apps until you've read Scripture, giving you a simple way to turn a moment of distraction into a moment with God.
When something is weighing on your mind, remember these three things:
Do what you can. Take responsibility for the actions and decisions that are yours to make.
Release what you can't. You don't have to control other people's choices or know every outcome.
Trust God with the rest. You can keep moving forward even when you don't have all the answers.
You may not be able to change what's happening right now. But you can choose how you respond to it, where you place your attention, and what you do with the day in front of you.
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